The why and how of creating emotional boundaries for happiness.
How a small change in your life can make you a LOT happier!
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In this video I speak about why making emotional boundaries can be a really great step toward greater happiness. Who we spend our time with makes a huge impact on how we feel about ourselves and our happiness levels. It can also impact on how we cope with problems in our lives. Take a look and see if there are some people in your life that aren’t quite as positive as we could hope for, and identify the people who are most loving and supportive in our lives.
Exercise: Do the Happiness Survey If you start with the Survey before you start to work on the boundaries project, you will have an idea of how you feel before you begin. Then after compiling the list that we create in the next tutorial, and doing the experiment over the next week, try the happiness survey again and see what change there is to your happiness level. Remember that having a gauge of your progress helps motivate you to gain further, greater, and deeper happiness through positive change.
In with the positive and out with the negative!
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This video is all about the HOW of creating more positive people around you and how to limit the effects of the negative people you may have in your life. Great tips and techniques for letting negativity flow past you. These tips will help in lots of areas of life, from work, home and family.
Exercise: Create you list of people in your life, and mark them down as neutral, positive or negative. Now spend one week actively seeking the company of the positive and avoiding the negative. Really try to notice how you feel in general, and about life. How do you cope with problems when you spend time with positive people? Do the Happiness Survey for more indication of changes over this week.
Here is the picture I promised, too. Hope it helps with the visual idea of letting negativity flow past you.
Check out the video below for help dealing with negative parents, children, and partners.
Do you have negative parents, children or partner? Here’s some ideas for that.
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You will find in this video some tips for coping with negative parents, children and partner you may have in your life. We are just experimenting for the moment, with avoiding the negative and seeking out the positive, but there are a few tips here for taking those changes into the future. There will also be ongoing information for dealing with, developing and growing some of these relationships later on How to Happiness.
Exercise: Create you list of people in your life, and mark them down as neutral, positive or negative. Now spend one week actively seeking the company of the positive and avoiding the negative. Really try to notice how you feel in general, and about life. How do you cope with problems when you spend time with positive people? Do the Happiness Survey for more indication of changes over this week.
A great book for staying positive while raising children is by Sarah Napthali and is entitled Buddhism for Mothers – A Calm Approach to Caring for Yourself and Your Children. She has other books about raising toddlers and school aged kids. You don’t need to be Buddhist to get a great deal of support and information from Sarah’s books, both for how to take care of kids, and how to care for yourself (like setting boundaries!)
Abusive and violent relationship help: You can find some support contacts here. And information and help sheets here. And this for a practical information sheet I hope you will seek some help if this information is relevant to you.
And……Don’t forget comments. How did you find doing the list of friends and family? Were you surprised by the results? How did it feel over the week with less contact with the negatives? Are you planning any changes for the future? Did you cope any differently with problems after spending time with positive supportive people?
Inspire others to try positive changes by letting them know about yours by adding a comment!
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