After connecting up with our Inner Child, we move on here to see how our Inner Child impacts on our every day life.

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During this video I talk about recognising your inner child in the emotions, feelings and responses you have during your every day.  When we can see, and acknowledge these feelings, we can start to use some of the things we tried in the first video, such as soothing, self talk, parenting ourselves, to deal with these rising emotions and feelings.  I talk about how I first used soothing to help me through a problem that came up for me often, and about how to not get caught up in other peoples emotions.

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Exercise:

Spend the week noticing the feelings, emotions and responses that you experience during your everyday life.  Recognise your inner child in them, by seeing they are the same that you discovered during last weeks exercise using the inner child visualization.  Notice where you feel the emotions, what your inner child is trying to tell you, and if they come up at regular times, so you can try to see what triggers them.  Then use your soothing, and parenting self talk to calm down the emotions, acknowledge them, and let your inner child know how you will take care of them.  Let them know they are safe.  Then, when your emotions and feelings have been quieted, you can try to take action, if it is needed, from this quieted place.  What action you take should be that of a parents action, protect, support, set boundaries, or give love.  Whatever is required.

Use a journal if you like to note down what you discover, how you supported and soothed yourself, what situations brought up what issues, emotions and feelings for you.  Have you done the Happiness Survey lately?  Why not take a look at that, and see if there is some changes to your overall Happiness level?

Meditation: {Haven’t started meditation yet? Click here for my meditation post}

While meditating on the first chakra (red/base) try to spend extra time clearing out any fears that may be coming up for you and your inner child. In the yellow chakra (emotions) spend extra energy clearing out sadness, loneliness, hurts, disappointments that you are discovering as you take notice in your every day. Then spend time in the yellow pumping in inner power and strength there, and also parental care and protection for your inner child.

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Now let’s take a look at our Inner Child in the past……..

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In this video we take a look at the past and how your inner child made its presence felt there.  Your inner child (all those basic fears, anxieties, wants and needs) effect the way we live.  While we were unaware of those feelings we live life through them.  When we become aware of these feelings in us, we can begin to manage them, parent ourselves, and even change some feelings that are no longer helping us, or are no longer necessary for us.  But in the past, before we understood these things, our feelings ( our inner child) can have been very prominent in the choices we made.  In recognising that, we can forgive ourselves for past mistakes that were motivated by fear or need of our inner child, because at that stage we did not understand about our feelings, or about caring for ourselves.

Forgiving ourselves, understanding how the past happened is a powerful way to allow the past to drop back into the past.  Without the past we are free to move freely into the future, and into Happiness!

Exercise:

Spend some time looking at some of the past (don’t get bogged down here, or connected up with these times – simply look as an observer at some of the past, and try not to get involved with it) and see if you can recognise there some of the emotions, fears, worries and needs that you will have discovered in the earlier Inner Child tutorials.  Look out for how your inner child directed your choices and responses.  Look for patterns of behavior.  See how fears, anxieties and needs have driven parts of your life. And then it time to forgive yourself for some of the mistakes, situation and responses that have been your inner child’s making.  Spend time with these ideas, use a journal to help sort out these feelings, if it helps.  Ultimately, we want to leave the past behind, and seeing how we very much were a part of the things that happened, forgiving ourselves for what we didn’t understand then, or know how to deal with then, and then letting it slip into the past.

Doing this work may bring up some things for you, and see some of the past in a different light.  You may feel you want to apologise to people you have hurt.  This is a wonderful feeling.  Do not rush to do these things, however.  Spend some time with these feelings, as they can be quite strong to start with.  Allow them to calm, and settle before you take action.  Try to wait a week.  You may want to see the last tutorial first, about forgiveness of others in your life, and past.  If you still feel the urge to apologise, then do so. Please realise, however, they have not had the insights you have, they may not accept your apology, or they may be angry all over again.  It may not be a favor to them to call up the past.  Have a think through about how it may go, before approaching them.  It may be enough to forgive yourself, and promise yourself that you will try your hardest not to hurt another the same way, now that you realise.  Alternatively, you may give great relief to someone who has been hurting a long time at your hand.  It is very personal, and only you can tell what you should do.

A Note on RESPONSIBILITY: I speak about taking responsibility for your past, and your inner child’s effects.  Of course, many of the fears, worries, anxieties, wants and needs are a direct result of perhaps our upbringing, significant events in childhood, ongoing poor relationships.  I am not suggesting that we were necessarily responsible for how your inner child was created.  Only, that now we know about the inner child and those emotions and feelings that come with that, we can take responsibility for how those feelings and emotions impact on our lives from now on.  And, that in the past, because we didn’t know about them, or how to deal with them, they effected the way we lived and what we did.  When we see that, no matter where the feelings and emotions came from, how these feelings and needs became part of your inner child, they are now YOUR responsibility.  From there we can forgive ourselves and MOVE ON!

Meditation: {Haven’t started meditation yet? Click here for my howto meditation post}

Spend lots of time in the yellow chakra, clearing away old hurts and disappointments as you work on this section.  Put in loads of care, power,  and support into the yellow area once you have cleared it.  Then in the heart chakra (green) spend lots of time putting in love and acceptance of you as you are and as you have been.  Give lots of love and support to yourself while you are taking an honest look at you.  Be your own best parent!

Comments: Don’t forget to add a comment, if you have been doing some of the exercises.  How did it feel to forgive the past?  Do you feel you can let go of the past a bit now?  Where you surprised how much you realised you inner child had effected your choices, responses and actions?