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Buidling Self Esteem and Self Confidence.

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People may say to you “you need more confidence” or “You’re lacking in self esteem”.  Or you may be like I was, where no one would say any such thing to me, as I was very good at putting on a front, and appearing confident, while underneath the mask I was completely uncertain and unsure of myself.  Either way, how are you supposed to get more confidence?

I guess lacking in self confidence and self esteem really means to not have faith in ourselves, be uncertain of ourselves, feel out of our depth a lot of the time.  This can stop us doing what we would really like to do, make many situations uncomfortable for us, make us self conscious, effect how we behave, what we thing of ourselves, and how others see us.

I want to address building confidence and self esteem because it has such a huge influences on our overall level of Happiness.  However, as I begin to plan this post, I find that I have already discussed much of this in my previous posts!

Firstly, when you decide to make changes in your life to gain more happiness, you immediately start building self esteem, for you are acknowledging that you deserve happiness in your life.  You give yourself Read more »

Who are you? Who do you want to be?

The why and how of making a Personal Mission Statement….

Why make a Mission Statement?

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In this video I talk about how important and useful writing and having a Personal Mission Statement is for finding direction, helping make decisions, small and large, making change in your life.  This is a major step toward creating more happiness in your life as you identify what is really important to you, what you really believe, and who you want to be.  With this behind you, you will be more sure of yourself, and confident!

Exercise: Do the Happiness Survey If you start with the Survey before you start to work on your Statement, you will have an idea of how you feel before you begin.  Then once you have worked on the Statement, after watching the video below, you will be able to see the positive effect of spending time on these important ideas.

How to go about creating a Mission Statement.

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In this video I let you know how to go about creating your Mission Statement.  What should you think about?  What should you include?

Exercise: Write your Mission Statement! Think of the funeral situation, keeping in mind:

Take a look at my Mission Statement Use the FREE life tool by signing in on the right hand side – it will help you get your Mission Statement down on paper! Please comment!  Let me know how it worked for you, and inspire others to try something valuable.

How to use your Mission Statement.

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In this final video I let you know how to best use your Personal Mission Statement now that it is complete. I cover:

  • Keeping your Statement in mind as you make choices during the day
  • Writing in your diary
  • When big decisions need to be made

Exercise: Write your diary and follow for a week! For just one week, write a full week in your diary of activities, including family and friends and time for self. Everyday keep an eye on your diary and do your very best to follow it. Let some of the less important things go to make time for more with those important people and things. How do you feel? Good enough to do it every week? Did you notice any change in your relationships? Did you notice change in yourself? You could do the Happiness Survey before and after to get a good gauge of the effects.

Please let me know how it works for you below, in the comments section. (Please use the post below to leave you comments …. little glitch in the comments tag for this post.  Thanks. )

 

 

Paula’s Personal Mission Statement

09/04/2010

I challenge myself to continually grow and evolve.   I continually seek and pursue my true self and create a life that corresponds, supports and defines that self.  I consider my role as parent my most important.  Parent to Maxwell and Samantha, and myself.

As parent to myself I continue to steer myself toward a medative, conscious life.  I endeavor to be mindful in all I do, and to find pleasure and happiness in all I do.  I aim to listen to and use my inner voice to guide me toward highest action and good.

I work toward building spiritual connections in all my relationships, to see the oneness of us all in everyone I meet, and particularly my close relationships. I will be …… Read more »

Values in Your Mission Statement

This is an add on article for those creating a Personal Mission Statement, that speaks about the importance of making principles and values the base of your Statement and your self!

The idea of a Personal Mission Statement is to give us the chance to clearly form, then to start using as a constant guide for living, the vision we have for our life. At the very base of that, there needs to be a solid and unshakable foundation upon which the rest can be built. It is important to consider that base as you write your Mission Statement. There are lots of things that can seem a good basis for this vision of you. Family, relationships, career, money, possessions, pleasure, church, friend/ enemy, or self. And many people use just such relationships as their base, directing what they do, how they do it, and why. Or they may change from one base to another with the flow of life.

However, the problem with all the above relationships, and “things” as a base, is that they are not stable. Relationships of all types change, evolve and end. Pleasure, money and possessions can come and go with events. So, as a stable basis for your Mission Statement (and your self) they don’t really support you all through life. What Stephen Covey suggests in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, where the whole concept of the Mission Statement came from for me, is that we need a basis in principles. Life values, core beliefs, personal truths by which to guide our lives, our actions.

Principles as a basis to you, and all you do, gives you a wonderful sense of security, as they are not vulnerable to change, like the other before mentioned bases are. Principle do not change their mind, have a change of heart or die. They are not dependent on your financial position, the car you drive, or the job you hold. Principles aren’t eve effected by natural disasters such as flood or earthquakes! By finding, identifying, committing to a set of principles we have a stable, non-changing and secure foundation for ourselves. This gives us the knowledge and direction we need to make all choices, big and small, in our life. It also provides us with confidence and strength to make those choices and to take action based upon them.

As you write your Mission Statement, please consider the very base beliefs you wish to live by. These may be those you have always lived by, and still hold true. Or it may be a time to reassess those values. You may feel comfortable with a set of religious values, or a collection of individual values, such as Human Rights, acceptance, treating everyone equally, love, respect, bravery, openness to knowledge/learning, growth, benevolence, spirituality, grace, thankfulness, or a sense of wonder.

How: It can be difficult to come up with your base principles, and some prompting can really help get you started. Put the term “list values” into an internet search engine to find lists and lists of ideas and pointers for a principles guide. Sense which ones feel right to you. They will probably feel as though you recognise them, like they are familiar to you. Or they may excite you. There doesn’t need to be a lot of them to give you your base, but there should probably be at least three: One that defines how you treat others. One that describes how you look on life, and one that is how you interact with the world. When your principles are in place, they guide and empower all the other things you may want to include in your Mission Statement: family, friends, work and home. These relationships are still important and valuable, but will now be strengthened by your personal base principles. What principles lead you? What do your really believe?

I hope you are excited and interested in creating this Mission Statement for yourself. It is a gift to know who you are, what you believe, and how you plan to move forward. Give it to yourself – then let me know about it in the comments!